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I have the great fortune to be a mother of 3, 1 girl and 2 boys. About a year and a half ago, my girl (who is now 21) moved out. I truly didn’t realize how much I loved having another female in the house until she was gone!
Boys will be Boys
Being the only female in a sea of testosterone is exhausting. My days are filled with full meals every two hours, smelly clothes and rooms (I use a lot of Febreze!), sports, burping contests, farting for fun, technology (oh, the technology!), shoes, socks and empty Gatorade bottles all over the house, and A LOT of competition.
There’s no nail painting or a second opinions on an outfit or hair style. No heart to heart talks about boys and friends; I miss those things. No empathy at that time of the month, just ‘stay away from mom for a few days’ attitudes.
How I get my ‘girl time’
Boy moms understand what I’m talking about! Mom’s with girls still at home can emphasize, but not truly understand the struggle of being the only female around males constantly. There are moments when I just need a break from it all. Here are some of the things that I do that seem to help:
- Call and talk to my daughter – when our schedules are aligned we have great long conversations about all kinds of things!
- Schedule coffee or lunch with a girl friend
- Go shopping, even if it’s alone
- Regular manicures and pedicures are a must!
- Call a girl friend or any female for that matter – my mom, mother-in-law, sister and sister-in-law are usually my go-to’s
- Drive to the nearest dance school and watch a ballet class – I haven’t actually resulted to doing this yet, but have gotten very close a few times!
Maybe if I never experienced having another female in the house, I would feel differently; I wouldn’t recognize that those moments are missing. My boys are sweet, though. They are always here to give me a hug or humor me when I am having conversations with them about if my shirt matches my pants or not. I’m sure that they would prefer not to listen, but usually do me the courtesy of listening anyway!
One of my favorite tank tops actually identifies me as a Boy Mom! I bought it in bright pink to get my ‘girl fix’, but I wear it all the time and moms are always asking me where I got it. So, as request, here you go!
There are still those moments, however, when my boys voluntarily come sit next to me. Sometimes they even sit on my lap (yes that still happens occasionally)! It reminds me that boys or girls, they are still my kiddos and they will always love their mom!